Gratitude & Giving
The secret to living: giving
You can have everything that will make your life look perfect on paper, but, there will still be something missing. Something that you can’t quite lay a finger on, and that something is the fulfillment that feeds your soul. The fulfillment that you get from giving back.
When I hear the phrase “giving back,” I’m immediately filled with gratitude. Gratitude for all that I have been given. Gratitude for all those who have helped me, in any sort of way. Gratitude for those who have been kind to me. Gratitude for those who lifted me up when I was low. And that gratitude is what gives me the willingness to give back what I have, so fortunately, been given.
Whether it was caring for injured stray animals or helping the less-fortunate, at a very young age, my parents made sure I knew how very important it was to constantly do my part in giving back to the world around me. They made sure I knew that wealth was measured by how loved I was, and not by the materialistic objects, because one day you could have all the money in the world, and the very next day, you could lose it all. I have been very fortunate to be raised in a family that has shown me the true value of life, and the true value of all the little things that truly matter.
I now live my life hoping that I can spread the same values to those around me and make a positive impact. Growing up, I spent years volunteering with several organizations such as Red Cross, UNICEF, American Heart Association, West Windsor Arts Association, Girls Scouts, and many local animal shelters. Being part of something greater than just myself is what drives me forward. Sure, I could splurge on the trendiest new bag in the market, and while it may make me happy in the moment, and for the next few days, when I look back, that is not something that will make me feel fulfilled.
Giving back is so important because it creates a ripple effect. When someone does something kind for you, you automatically want to pass that on and do something kind in return. Whether you donate a portion of your paycheck, or you spend time volunteering in your community, there are many ways to give back and spread positivity. It’s not always about money. Even if you just smile at a stranger, or you strike a conversation with someone you see being left out, you’re giving back the kindness you once received, and that is going to go a long way.
Quick story: When I think about the times I was bullied in school, I don’t think about the kids that bullied me. I think about the friends that stood by me. I think about my family who was always there to pick me right up. I think about my sister who became my best friend, a pillar for me to lean on.
You may not think that being kind to a random stranger is a big deal, but you never know what someone may be going through. For all you know, your one smile may be the only glimpse of kindness they receive in a long time. Your quick “how are you,” may be the only time someone has checked up on them. Always remember that just because someone can carry the baggage without showing any signs discomfort, it doesn’t mean that the baggage isn’t heavy. All it means is that they have learned to put up a front because they’re scared to be vulnerable.
“Some of the kindest souls I know have lived in a world that was not so kind to them. Some of the best human beings I know, have been through so much at the hands of others, and they still love deeply, they still care. Sometimes, it’s the people who have been hurt the most, who refuse to be hardened in this world, because they would never want to make another person feel the same way they themselves have felt. If that isn’t something to be in awe of, I don’t know what is.”
– Bianca Sparacino, The Strength in Our Scars